A few weeks ago I had the privilege of interviewing the delightful Michelle Buchanan. For those of you who aren’t familiar with Michelle and her work, she is a world renowned Numerologist and Hay House author of “The Numerology Guidance Book”and radio presenter on Hay House Radio of the upcoming show “Numerology Guidance.”
Michelle lives in New Zealand, but is well known internationally for her work, and she truly is one of those amazing people you just feel energised after listening to her talk. She is so grateful for all that she has in her life and her positive attitude is inspiring. One of the questions I asked her towards the end of the interview was “What advice would you give your younger self?”
The first response was “Don’t be so quick to throw yourself under the bus. Don’t be so worried about what other people think. Be your own best friend and don’t sweat the small stuff.” Don’t be so quick to throw yourself under the bus. That statement is so strong and visceral, and got me thinking about how many of us do that to ourselves all the time, often without realising it. We blame ourselves before thinking things out clearly and rationally and often, treat ourselves not as our closest ally (the person, as Louise Hay says, “the closest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves.”), but as somebody we are angry with, speak harshly to, or sometimes do not like.
Would you throw your bestie under a bus, even on his/her worst day? Hell no! So here are ten tips how to not throw yourself under the bus and being as kind to yourself as you would your dearest ally.
1. Eat right- try for one day, or for one meal, even, to make yourself the most nourishing and beautifully presented plate Gordon Ramsay couldn’t swear at
2. Sleep Right- Lavender, camomile tea, and a bath with epsom salts- catch those zzz’s
3. Self Protect- As Terri Cole says “Take care of you”
4. Watch for energy vampires- Vampires are not just for True Blood and Buffy. They are all around. Look for who makes you feel energised and who leaves you feeling drained. Not everyone deserves a role in your life movie.
5. Guard Your self talk like a mother lion protecting her cubs- listen to your inner dialogue and if you catch yourself saying something nasty, swat it away like mama lion shooing away another fly. Don’t berate yourself, congratulate yourself, “I just caught one of those suckers!”
6. If you don’t want to do it, whatever “it ” is, don’t do it! – If something’s not working out for you or you don’t want to go somewhere, and if you imagine not having this obligation over your head and you feel lighter with it gone- strike it from your to do list. You shouldn’t have to dread anything in your life.
7. Go for a walk- walking solves every problem. Walk it out, run it out. 20 minutes can make all the difference
8. Don’t worry about what they think, might be thinking…might not be thinking…- we never know what anybody’s really thinking or what their reality is so don’t make up fiction. Stay true to you, confident and safe with in yourself, and let them run their own race.
9. As Michelle says, “Be your own best friend”- or as Hamlet said “To thine own self be true”… treat yourself like a queen/king for at least one hour every week. That could mean a hot stone massage, a new set of sheets, or reading an Agatha Raison novel next to a roaring fire…whatever it is you love to do on your own….do something special for yourself
10. Again, as Michelle says, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Worry, worry, worry. If you hear your mind ticking away with worries about things you can’t control, take a deep breath and start singing “Let it Go” from Frozen at the top of your lungs. If you haven’t seen Frozen; see it, it’s awesome.