WHEN WE GET WHAT WE WANT

“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” Buddha

The first thing to do when you get what you really, really want is to notice it. So often, we are so caught up in focusing on the next thing, that we fail to realise we have achieved a major goal, accomplishment, or heart’s desire.

One way to do this is to break your life down into seven year cycles. 0-7, 7-14, 14-21, 21-28, 28-35, 35-42, 42-49, 49-56, and so on. Look at how every seven years have been different and what you have accomplished in those  periods. You’ll be amazed at how much has happened.

Sometimes we are so busy living our lives that we don’t notice how much we already have.

Shine like the whole Universe is yours.” Rumi

Often, when we achieve something major, we run the risk of feeling like we don’t deserve it. You do deserve the gift, whatever it is- destiny says that it’s meant to be yours. Listen to that small, depleting voice that warns, “I don’t deserve this”, “Somebody might take this away from me”, “I’m a fraud,”- that voice may be trying to protect you, but that voice is not your advocate. You deserve success. You deserve happiness. You deserve to live the life of your dreams.“In my defencelessness, my safety lies.” A Course in Miracles

Just be grateful and say thank you. Be open to receiving that which is wonderful.

Creative Coaching/Power Sessions are available via Skype- email me for more information. Current live workshops include “Acting Fundamentals” Thursday evenings at Tantrum and “Imago Actors Studio”- see website for details. To make enquiries about workshops for schools on Performance and Creativity (options for students and teachers) please email clairepasvolsky@gmail.com

Insights on the Charismatic

Hi Friends,

After yesterday’s blog post on Cultivating Charisma, I asked my husband who the most charismatic person/people he’s ever met were. The answer; Daniel Day Lewis and Jack Nicholson. My husband was nominated for an Oscar in 2003 for his amazing short film “Inja” which took him on a global world tour of film festivals, winding up at the Oscars. During the lead up to the ceremony, he was at parties and lunches with a shit ton of famous people- but the two that stood out the most were Day Lewis and Nicholson. 

The qualities that stood out in Daniel Day Lewis were; a striking look, a statuesque physique, grace and an undeniable presence. Steve says, “He wasn’t a celebrity. He stood apart from the crowd and you felt like you were in the presence of a great artist.” 

Then Steve had lunch sitting next to Jack Nicholson. Jack made friends with everyone at the table, he was super upbeat and they talked about basketball. As he was leaving he told the nominees to enjoy every second of their journey, “because you might not get to come back.” He was friendly, warm and genuine and was grateful for the great ride life had given him.

But what about every day people who are charismatic? Think about the most charismatic person you know. They are not necessarily well known, but they have a quality about them that draws others to them in a positive way. Chances are, they are interested as well as interesting, they’re authentic, grateful and comfortable with who they are.

Charisma can also be switched on and off. It doesn’t have to be a 24 hour thing. I remember seeing a stage full of speakers, many of whom were charismatic on stage, but once outside at a book signing, down on the level of the audience, they just seemed like regular people again.

Can you think of a specific time in your life when you felt charismatic? This is probably what was going on for you-

1. You were in your element

2. You felt comfortable with the surroundings

3. You felt confident within yourself

4. Your body language was open

5. You were smiling

6. You were having fun

7. You were making genuine connections with people by listening to what they had to say

If you’ve had moments like that, then you’ve had charisma. It can be cultivated- but it’s when the other things are coming into alignment (such as confidence, body language, self worth etc) that it all comes together. Charisma, however, can’t be faked. It’s authentic. Of course charismatic people can be insane (like Hitler and Charles Manson), but for now, let’s focus on the good eggs.

So thinking about your charismatic experience, is there a way you could tap into that energy on a more frequent basis? 

Lot’s of love,

Claire x