Creativity IS for Everyone- Discovering Your 5 Unique Gifts- A chat with Dr Suvrat Bhargave

I recently had the opportunity to chat with the lovely Dr Suvrat Bhargave, a presenter on Hay House Radio on the subject of Creativity. Dr Bhargave is a renowned and respected educator, speaker, and board certified psychiatrist, specializing in child and adolescent psychiatry. His practice is based in Atlanta, Georgia, and he is a regular speaker nationally in the US on a broad range of topics related to personal growth, effective parenting, relationship satisfaction and mental health. Dr Bhargave completed his residency training and specialty fellowship from Duke University, North Carolina.

On his radio show “A Moment of Insight”, Dr B (as he is affectionately called by his patients) recently discussed how an if an individual can discover their five unique gifts, that they will be utilising their strengths and creativity. I wanted to find out more about Dr B’s ideas on how people can discover and then live their gifts, so thanks Dr B for answering these questions- I think we’re all going to have a moment of insight!

Q. Do you think everyone is creative?

A. “I do believe that creativity is a force that can be accessed by each of us, much like intuition or love. Unfortunately, as is the case with action-reaction pairs, there are forces that oppose each of these energies. For example, love is often opposed by fear, and, similarly, creativity is most challenged by doubt. What could I possibly have to say? Is my voice valuable enough? Will I be heard? Creativity is a force of expression, and every voice matters.”

Q. What is Creativity?

A. “I also believe that we confine this expansive force with narrow definitions. The traditional arts- dancing, painting, sculpting, singing- are beautiful vehicles of expression, but what about the perspective of a mechanic, who in his zone sees the design of the engine before him and then weaves in his work. Or what about the poetry of numbers a mathematician pens? Or the arrangement of ingredients that results in the masterpiece of a heartfelt meal? People are quick to dismiss their creative potential without considering the daily ways in which they may be exhibiting that very ability.”

Q. Why is it important for us to discover our 5 unique gifts?

A. “The path to tapping into all the energies of the Universe is through authenticity. We taint creativity, intuition, love, or any of the positive forces when we dilute ourselves for others or for perceived expectations. On the other hand, we are most aligned with all the possibilities of the Universe when we can be true to who we are. Who we are includes the 5 Gifts. I believe that we are all God’s children and that He sends each of us into the world with innate gifts. Qualities and characteristics that are inherent and steadfast despite what has happened in our lives or who is around us in any given moment. People are often able to list quickly their qualities that are negative or need fixing, but I encourage people to write down their unique list of Gifts.”

Q. How can we find out what those Gifts actually are?

A. “I would give yourself a deadline of a few days to come up with your list- and don’t consult others- you are exploring yourself, not the perceptions of others. Once the list is made, I advise that it be carried around or placed in a spot that is viewed throughout the day- at least until it can be recited readily without having to be referenced. The point is to have a conscious, balanced awareness of who you are.”

Q. So, your list may look something like this: “My 5 Unique Gifts Are: 1. My creativity 2. My compassion 3. My ability to play the piano 4. My heightened intuition 5. My quirky sense of humour. How then, does one go about utilising these gifts?

A.”Once you are aware of your 5 Unique Gifts, you should set out to make the most of these. After all, you certainly don’t want to waste your God-given talents! Surround yourself with activities, opportunities, and interactions that make the most of your characteristics.Use your gifts to better understand the roles and purposes of your life. For example, if one of your gifts is Creativity- then go through your day looking for ways to deliberately utilise this quality- and remember again not to confine the definition of this.”

Q. Can you have more than 5 Gifts on your list?

A. “You can absolutely add onto the list of Gifts as you discover more about who you are and what you have to offer. You’ll see that the more authentic you are in the understanding of yourself and the more that you honour who you are, the energies and the possibilites of the Universe will flow towards you.”

To find out more about Dr. B, visit his website at drbhargave.com. What are your 5 Unique Gifts? I’d love to hear from you!

Ten Ways To Not Throw Yourself Under the Bus

Hi Friends,

A few weeks ago I had the privilege of interviewing the delightful Michelle Buchanan. For those of you who aren’t familiar with Michelle and her work, she is a world renowned Numerologist and Hay House author of “The Numerology Guidance Book”and radio presenter on Hay House Radio of the upcoming show “Numerology Guidance.”

Michelle lives in New Zealand, but is well known internationally for her work, and she truly is one of those amazing people you just feel energised after listening to her talk. She is so grateful for all that she has in her life and her positive attitude is inspiring. One of the questions I asked her towards the end of the interview was “What advice would you give your younger self?”

The first response was “Don’t be so quick to throw yourself under the bus. Don’t be so worried about what other people think. Be your own best friend and don’t sweat the small stuff.” Don’t be so quick to throw  yourself under the bus. That statement is so strong and visceral, and got me thinking about how many of us do that to ourselves all the time, often without realising it. We blame ourselves before thinking things out clearly and rationally and often, treat ourselves not as our closest ally (the person, as Louise Hay says, “the closest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves.”), but as somebody we are angry with, speak harshly to, or sometimes do not like.

Would you throw your bestie under a bus, even on his/her worst day? Hell no! So here are ten tips how to not throw yourself under the bus and being as kind to yourself as you would your dearest ally.

1. Eat right- try for one day, or for one meal, even, to make yourself the most nourishing and beautifully presented plate Gordon Ramsay couldn’t swear at

2. Sleep Right- Lavender, camomile tea, and a bath with epsom salts- catch those zzz’s

3. Self Protect- As Terri Cole says “Take care of you”

4. Watch for energy vampires- Vampires are not just for True Blood and Buffy. They are all around. Look for who makes you feel energised and who leaves you feeling drained. Not everyone deserves a role in your life movie.

5. Guard Your self talk like a mother lion protecting her cubs- listen to your inner dialogue and if you catch yourself saying something nasty, swat it away like mama lion shooing away another fly. Don’t berate yourself, congratulate yourself, “I just caught one of those suckers!”

6. If you don’t want to do it, whatever “it ” is, don’t do it! – If something’s not working out for you or you don’t want to go somewhere, and if you imagine not having this obligation over your head and you feel lighter with it gone- strike it from your to do list. You shouldn’t have to dread anything in your life.

7. Go for a walk- walking solves every problem. Walk it out, run it out. 20 minutes can make all the difference

8. Don’t worry about what they think, might be thinking…might not be thinking…- we never know what anybody’s really thinking or what their reality is so don’t make up fiction. Stay true to you, confident and safe with in yourself, and let them run their own race.

9. As Michelle says, “Be your own best friend”- or as Hamlet said “To thine own self be true”… treat yourself like a queen/king for at least one hour every week. That could mean a hot stone massage, a new set of sheets, or reading an Agatha Raison novel next to a roaring fire…whatever it is you love to do on your own….do something special for yourself

10. Again, as Michelle says, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Worry, worry, worry. If you hear your mind ticking away with worries about things you can’t control, take a deep breath and start singing “Let it Go” from Frozen at the top of your lungs. If you haven’t seen Frozen; see it, it’s awesome.

Much love,

Claire xx